Growing up in foster care, I grew up to believe that there was such a thing as "perfect" people; despite hearing people say that "nobody's perfect". In recent years, I learned that the Bible confirms that nobody is perfect, good or righteous. Last summer, I did a YouTube video talking about how narcissistic abusers cause their victims to be validation-seeking people pleasers who develop OCD. With OCD, you strive for perfection, yet are never good enough or right enough. Always missing the mark. Always falling short. They constantly make you feel like a failure or a worthless loser.
Like as if everyone is better than you & has more COMMON SENSE than you. I'm college educated, & still get treated like a punished toddler. Everyone is supposed to be "there" to fix, control or punish me.
With a narc, especially the religious ones, you can't find any flaw with them. They're so slick & stealthy. They think they have all the answers to what "perfection" is. Only their personal opinions & standards. Religious narcs probably think they have the "authority" to punish God! After all, they act like they delusionally believe that they're bigger, better & higher than the REAL God, Himself! They walk around, with their noses turned up in the air, with elitist mentality.
It's like, you never see a Narcissistic Abuser make any mistakes. & if you make one in their presence, then they make it like as if your error is irredeemable & unforgivable, like as if you blasphemed the Holy Spirit. They're the main ones who tell YOU that YOU need to swallow your pride & humble yourself, while they have a self-professed "license" to be arrogant! Yep, using projection. Telling you that you need to have some humility, when you reject their suggestion to see a psychiatrist & take pills. They can do NO WRONG! Everyone always defends & agrees with the narc, while your voice of truth is silenced.
Growing up, I never knew that the terms (stuck up, snobby, arrogant, conceited, bougie, uppity, saddity, sheisty, etc.) were words to describe narcissists.