When I look at other people, they don't seem as much like a threat with speaking out against their personal narcissistic abuse experiences, as like when targeted individuals speak out against their personal gang stalking experiences. When it comes to me, it's the other way around. I get attacked even worse whenever I speak out against narcissistic abuse. I have SO much hell to pay & such a BIG lesson to learn, the HARD WAY. Then, they have their fake, lying smear campaign against you, & then everyone flocks to them, like joining a popular, new, viral cult. They reverse it on you, lying & saying that you're the one with the smear campaigns & lies, throwing dirt on their name, throwing them under the bus, etc. when they know DAMN WELL that you're telling the truth! Then, their cult followers AKA flying monkeys or cheerleaders come & mob you like a pack of wolves. Narcs pride themselves in getting you to be considered as the "crazy" one. It's a badge of honor for them to get nobody to believe you. You end up having nobody in your corner, & then you're made out to look like a dummy.
They try to frighten, scare, intimidate, bully & shame me, to the point where, depending on the circumstance, I'm coercively manipulated into either lying to them or telling them the truth (as an attempted survival mechanism), out of fear of worse attacks. I feel ashamed of being intimidated into lying to them, because I'm temporarily & momentarily paralyzed by fear. I'm usually a truthful person. & to hear narcissistic lectures & being yelled at by narcissistic abusers, who are younger than me, & they would feel like, that I "deserve" a good telling off about myself. They usually would tell me that, "Somebody needs to whip your ass, & whip it good!", like as if I'm still a child.
They even bully & shame you into an apology, in a way, where you get the same emotion like as if you're being a victim of attempted robbery, & once they took your apology (like your money), they make it like as they're God, & you don't deserve their mercy or forgiveness, like as if, once you handed over your money to them, they're fake "merciful" enough to let you live. If you apologize, it's like as if you're not worthy to deserve their forgiveness, but they'll give it to you, anyway. But they treat you like that, after you publicly exposed the truth about them. They try to bully you into taking your truth back.
They try to make it like, if I were to write a blog post or do a YouTube video speaking out against them, they confront me & try to bully me into shame & make it like as if I'm the bad guy, & they're the good ones.
Strange how they tell you not to be afraid of anyone, yet they're the ones who try to use fear bully you into submission. They think their power is so strong, that they try to get you to fear them more than God.
They make it like YOU'RE the demanding, controlling narcissist who's selfish, unfair & inconsiderate of others. They describe it as, you want everyone to walk on eggshells for you, or that you're toxic & negative, that you're psychologically "smothering" them, etc. They don't care about my hypersensitive ears or Asperger's syndrome. They don't care about my Tourette's or complex PTSD. You can't tell them what triggers, bothers or re-traumatizes you all over again. Then, they make it like, "Are you THAT sensitive that nobody can tell you anything?" Then they make a threat to permanently cut off ALL contact with you & bully, harass & lecture you about how you're your own worst enemy & will be miserable & alone for the rest of your life. They love to throw it in your face, how you can't get along with anybody.
They make it like as if YOU'RE the narcissist, who has "nerve" to call anyone else a narcissist. Just like, the fake TI perps make it like, as if I have "nerve" to call anyone else a narcissistic control freak fake TI perp. Or a narcissistic control freak fake friend. (I get falsely accused of being the "gang stalker/perp" 24/7, & society believes that lie.) & they try to argue you that they're NOT a narcissist, & make it like as if they want you to learn your lesson from EVER calling them a narcissist or publicly exposing them again. That's why some victims suffer in silence, or they speak up MUCH later on. So late, that people get mad & say, "You must've like to be treated like that, because why did you stay in the marriage/friendship/relationship for so long, & why didn't you speak up & say something when it was happening?" You get treated with the same abuse by society, like how rape victims get treated if they told about the rape 3 days later because they were too scared.
Covert narcissists pretend to be fake "nice" during the beginning of the friendship & act like you can let your guard down & be comfortable with them, trust them & tell them everything. Your deepest, darkest, most embarrassing secrets. Stuff that you never told anyone else. Then, they start slowly, but surely pulling away the rug of support. Making the contact sporadic & randomized. Then, you're blocked. Or, if they don't block you, they make it like as if they're heavily DISGUSTED with everything you do or say. They begin to shock you by telling you everything critical & offensive about yourself, that they never told you before. & then, when you block them because they act like they hate you, now they're "surprised", & then play innocent & tell you, "You can't just block & cut off all contact with someone because they tell you something you don't like!" See how they try to minimize it? & then they block you randomly whenever they feel like it, but how DARE YOU block them!
When they can't control or abuse you the way they want to, or hit you where it hurts, like they want to, you're making them walk on eggshells. They make it like YOU'RE the selfish, hypocritical narcissist with double standards! & they can be young enough to be your offspring & bully, harass & lecture you, trying to make you defenseless & speechless. Like how a child is, when he/she's in trouble. I'm tired of being treated like this! I'm 38 years old!
With some narcissistic abusers, they like to put on this front, like as if they're so "perfect" that you can't notice any flaws or mistakes. They act like as if they delusionally believe that they're bigger, better & higher than God.
& they love to say, "You know not to f*ck with me!" "You know not to play with me!", like as if they're untouchable. & they're always talking about kicking someone's ass. Now, what if they, thinking they're so tough & rough, get beat up during the fight? Then they pretend to fake "humble" themselves, & now they're the "hurt victim", when they picked the fight first & threw the first lick.
Yeah, you're "right"! I need to speak up & not be scared of you, because you're NOT God! & you want to try to bully & force me to take accountability for your false accusations against me, & you proudly brag about being non-apologetic for all the dirt & abuse you've done to me. & even if you act like you think you're against psychiatry & the New World Order, you still try to make me out to look mentally unhinged & insane!
Look at this.
https://upjourney.com/how-to-know-if-a-narcissist-is-finished-with-you
I don't agree with the fake New Age/occult info at the bottom or in between, but just stick only with the narcissistic abuse info towards the top half.
I mainly wanted you to read this part.
Here are some telltale signs that he/she is through:
Devalues you constantly, by putting you down, even at times when they used to be kind.
Seems visually irritated at all times with you.
They become intolerant of most everything you do.
Starts to not show up or come home, without any excuses
Shuts down and/or quits talking to you.
Leaves with no warning signs.
Starts showing heavier interest in someone else.
Truth is, some of these actions may already be in place when dealing with a narcissist. But when you notice an increase and complete apathy towards anything you feel/need/want, there’s probably more going on.