The Narcissist Pretends To Disagree With You

Written:

12/13/2022


-For an excuse to pick an argument with you

-To gaslight you & make you look crazy

-For an excuse to refuse conversation with you

-You probably have experienced other reasons 




They can have the same conversation with another person, & they're in 100% full agreement with that other person.

Example: You're having a conversation with your narcissistic uncle. You tell him that you think that the Dallas Cowboys is 1 of the best pro football teams. He says, "Now where out in left field are you going?! Stop talking out of your ass! The Dallas Cowboys suck, & I NEVER DID like the Dallas Cowboys!" & then angrily storms out of the room, leaving you to question & obsess for days over what you might've said "wrong".

That SAME uncle has a conversation with his nextdoor neighbor about a week later. The nextdoor neighbor tells him the same thing you did. That the Dallas Cowboys is 1 of the best pro football teams. Your uncle agrees with him, & tells him, "Oh yeah! Those Dallas Cowboys don't play! That's been my favorite team since I was like 12 years old." 

Later on, you pull your uncle to the side & confront him about what he said, & then he gets defensive. It escalates to a dangerous argument that leads to him threatening to have you locked up in the mental institution, or possibly escalating to an all-out fist fight, where the police needs to be called. The cops side with him & threaten you with jail. Nothing happens to the abusive uncle who put his hands on you 1st!

Can you relate to something like this?